COMFORTABLE IN THE CHAOS
I received one of the best compliments I have ever been given a few days ago. The gentleman didn’t even realize he was complimenting me when he said it. He said, “You’re comfortable in the chaos.” I know you’re thinking, “How is that a compliment?” Oh it IS in so many ways:
1) Being comfortable in the chaos means you realize you can’t control everything.
It’s an understanding that you are not God. People, adults and children, will do things that defy your well tuned sensibilities. Random acts of nature will occur: tornadoes, hurricanes, earthquakes, a two year old discovering a long lost Sharpie. At the end of the day life still goes on.
2) Being comfortable in the chaos means you understand kids need to play more than you need quiet.
Children need to be able to be kids. They need to run, jump, squeal, and scream to their heart’s content. Preferable this is done outside but there are times when it rains every day for a week. Their boundless energy needs a place to go. So build a blanket fort in the dining room or bring the mini-bouncy house inside, they’re only children for such a short time. And that need for quiet you have, you gave that up when you had kids. You can take short reprieves with slow walks around Target sipping on Starbucks or you can just buy some earplugs. I suggest both.
3) Being comfortable in the chaos means you accept your house will never be spotless as long as there are little people in it.
Those cute little blobs of cooing you bring home from the hospital quickly turn into mobile forces of destruction and stickiness. That’s just life. You can spend every moment at home cleaning up after them or settle into a cleaning routine that keeps the mess at a level that is acceptable to you. I choose the second option.
4) Being comfortable in the chaos means you know this chaos will end some day.
You know how people say, “The days are long but the years are fast?” It is true. It is amazing how some days can feel like eternity but you wake up one morning and your baby is off to college. Trust me, it will sneak up on you when you’re looking.
So yeah, I take being comfortable in the chaos as a compliment. It means I can see the big picture and I don’t sweat the small stuff. I think it might mean, after 40 years on this planet, I just may have some small part of life figured out.