WHY I LOVE/LOATHE MY CHILDREN AT EACH AGE

      Every parent has moments where her love for her children is not the most apparent emotion at the time. We’ve all been there. That moment when you just want your child to stop doing that really annoying/frustrating/pain in the butt thing he’s doing. We still love our children we just don’t love action. Every age has it’s own unique…let’s call them challenges. Every age also has those special things that makes your heart melt. Here’s my top love and loathe moments for each age.

Newborn

Love

     Is there anything better than the smell of a newborn? Their gurgles and coos are so precious. They’re little balls of love that mothers are genetically programmed to think are the most wonderful little creatures ever to exist on the planet. They may look like the cross between a plucked chicken and a naked mole rat but moms don’t see it. They see perfection because they are. They are perfect little creatures.

Loathe

     Why is it they have to be fed so freaking often? Wouldn’t it have been nice if God had made newborn humans so they only need to be fed every six hours. And then there’s the diapers, the poop-up-the-back, sticky, muddy diapers that need to be changed two seconds. If you do not attend to those needs immediately they scream so loud you wonder how in the world a sound so insidious could possibly come from a child so small.

Infant

Love

      That tiny little helpless creature is now doing more. He’s crawling, expressing happiness, and developing food preferences. He babbles. Its just so darn cute.

Loathe

     Around three to four months is when I start to crack. The long term sleep deprivation coupled with this kid needing to be near me every freaking moment of every freaking day leads to a Mt Everest level explosion. Then I feel better.

Toddler

Love

     Now he’s super active and mobile. He entertains himself for longer stretches of time. His personality is really developing. He expresses himself so much better. He’s sleeping through the night, meaning I get to sleep through the night. That little baby isn’t so much a baby anymore.

Loathe

     They learn how to go boneless at this age. Really, you’re walking along holding his hand one second and the next second he’s transformed into a puddle of hissy-fit throwing, screaming tantrum.

Preschooler

Love

     He’s learning so much now. He loves singing the alphabet and “reading” books to you. Everything in the world is fascinating and new.

Loathe

     “I want. I want. I want. I want.” Need I say more?

Elementary School

Love

     They develop friends on their own. They have little social lives that no longer require you to be standing over them all the time. They’re busy little people, growing up.

Loathe

     There is just too much they want to put on their schedule. No, it’s not okay to do gymnastics, baseball, swimming, and chess club at the same time. What happened to just being a kid? Go outside and play – unstructured play.

Middle School

Love

     I love my children when they’re in middle school because a mother’s love is unconditional.

Loathe

     Middle school aged girls are walking explosives. You have no idea when that little bomb is going to blow but you know it will soon and repetitively. It will also be entirely your fault because you are ruining her life. How dare you not let her spend the night at a boy/girl sleepover party? Who cares you haven’t even met the friend’s parents? Who cares you think there will be some shenanigans inappropriate for a pre-teen going on there? You are ruining her social life for-ev-er.

High School

Love

     They’re almost grown. You can have intelligent conversations about history, politics, literature, religion, art, life, love, or just about anything. They have their own views of the world and can articulately defend them. The morals and values you have tried to embed in them have hopefully stuck and now you can see them begin to live out those values when challenged by their less moral peers. And they can can drive themselves places. It’s so nice to not have to drive them everywhere.

Loathe

     You have so much more to worry about with a high-schooler. You don’t know what they’re doing every moment of every day. You have to trust they are making the right choices. If you’ve successfully raised them they’re mistakes won’t be catastrophic. Outside of their own choices, there’s the fear of actions beyond their control. She’s driving now so she will be on the road with other drives-bad drivers. If she doesn’t answer her phone she must be in an overturned car in a ravine. The water is rising and she’s about drown. Or, she’s been kidnapped and is being held in the trunk of a car. There may be a slim chance her phone’s battery died or she forgot to turn the volume back up after church.

College

Love

     Your child is an adult now, heading out on his own to begin his life as an adult.

Loathe

     Your child is an adult now, heading out on his own to begin his life as an adult.
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